Thursday, April 29, 2010

Unapology

But before I get to that, I do apologize for not updating since the Olympics.

Remember those "Thoughtful Thursdays" posts I did awhile back? Well, even though it's technically Friday, I'm back-dating this so it says "Thursday."

I was talking with some friends this evening. And sometime after eating homemade bread and homemade cheese, but before my really embarrassing "tired laugh," (some of you know the one) we had an interesting discussion about how easy it is to judge others and how awful it feels to be judged.

And while I'm often entirely guilty of this, I'm sad that we sometimes feel like we have to conform to others' views of what we should say, wear, enjoy, love, listen to, read, eat, and so forth. But, I also feel like I'm getting better shedding the guilt. I remember learning early on in elementary school what the word "unique" meant. I still think it's a pretty cool word. But even as a grownup, it's hard to remember that it's a pretty cool thing to be.

You see, I THRIVE on variety, as I think a lot of us do. I find beauty in a lot of different things. I love spending time with creative people who teach me about their way of viewing the world, thus broadening my own view.

As it happens, I unapologetically love a lot of things. I love beautiful prose. Pride and Prejudice is my favorite novel. I also enjoyed Pride and Prejudice and Zombies. I love Romantic poetry. I really enjoy reading Dan Brown novels. I've spent a lot of time reading Harry Potter. I used to sneak read Babysitter's Club books after "Lights Out." I had a deal with my dad that for every Earnest Hemingway novel I read, he'd buy me a Roswell High novel.

I think it's okay that I like Gilmore Girls, Lost, Roswell, and Firefly. I also thoroughly enjoy Disney Channel and Nickelodeon programming--even though I don't have kids to watch it with. I think most of the shows are funny and smart, and I never have to worry about inappropriate content.

I love listening to Nickel Creek. Periodically you might find me at an intersection singing along to the Mormon Tabernacle Choir at the top of my lungs. I've seen *NSYNC, Sara Watkins, Iron & Wine, Counting Crows, Jimmy Eat World, Snow Patrol, Paramore, Panic at the Disco, Dashboard Confessional and others live. This summer alone, I plan on seeing She & Him, Punch Brothers, Jonas Brothers, and Hanson live.

I really love good food. I love cooking with whole, fresh ingredients, and I love new and interesting flavor combinations. Sushi is delicious. I both despise chain restaurants and love Wendy's.

I find George Clooney and Zac Efron very attractive.

I own clothes from both Anthropologie and Walmart.

I dream of being a mother, and I still dream of being a movie star.

I equally enjoy talking and listening, teaching and learning, laughing and crying. Especially during those rare and beautiful moments when all of these happen at once.

After all that, I'm not sure I'm laying down what I hoped you would pick up. I think what I want to say is that it's okay (and totally possible) to be hipster and teeny-bopper (Just don't tell the hipsters. And don't even try telling the teeny-boppers. They're too busy shrilling.) It's okay to be passionate about something, even if no one else is or even if everyone else is.

We should never feel the need to apologize for what we love, who we are, or the things we believe. The best thing about life is that we don't all have to like the same things in order to have good conversations with, or respect for, one another.

A/N: Edit and Republish Count: 3.

7 comments:

Tess said...

I like this post. Good to hear from you again. :) I really hate it when I cater what I tell people about myself to their likes...you'd think I'd be over that by now. Way to lay it all out, and with pride.

MOM/SUSAN said...

What do you mean, it's nothing special? Welcome back to the blog--and in the very best way! I'm so glad you're you!

Randy, Ally, and Wes said...

I think one of the most attractive qualities in a person is being comfortable with who they are. Plus, I learned a long time ago it just takes too much effort to try and conform to anyone's idea of "cool." I'd much rather enjoy life.

I second your mom's comment--I am also very glad there is a Megan in the world! Miss you like crazy by the way.

jeff said...

I agree with what you basically outlined in your post: that being a nerd equals being passionate about something. Which is why someone like Paris Hilton would never be labelled a nerd, but why those people are completely uninteresting.

(Nerds are better than hipsters, because their passion is not based in irony.)

As an aside, I loved the idea of "P&P&Z" but thought it was very poorly executed.

Tai said...

How do you catch a special rabbit?
Unique up on it.

Love your blog. Love you. SO glad we're friends.

PS. Your bread is delicious, I ate too much. Comma splice?

Mallory said...

I love this blog post. And I love that you let me be as passionate (read: geeky) as I want to be and never making me feel like a dork for it. I love that we watch Disney Channel stuff together, and that we also can have conversations about literature and typography. 'Cause variety and genuine interest is what it's all about.

Rachel said...

Word.

Also:

1. I haven't heard of most of those bands, which probably makes me neither hip nor teeny-bopper. What am I???

2. I have no problem with pride and prejudice and zombies, since it's like the ur-supernatural classic remake. I do, however, have a problem with all of the copycats out now. I was disappointed just this week to find out about a new novel called "Jane Slayr." Horrible. Reasons for horribleness: 1)I hate how they claim to have "co-authors" with undeniable geniuses. So uncouth. 2)I can't stand the piggyback/copycat genre in general. One "...and Zombies" and one "Twilight" is definitely more than enough. More than. Have you even BEEN to a B&N lately? Shelves and shelves of vampire "literature" and scores of "co-authorships." So lame. Please express thoughts on this in an upcoming post. Also, I must say for the record for your readership that I have never read any of the above mentioned books, and I never will. You know that. I just wanted to make sure they knew that.

3. I accept your apology for not having posted since the Olympics.

4. You said a lot of really tender things in your post that I have distracted myself from by talking about numbers 1-3. Forgiveness, please.

I love you! (And you are a special gal, fo sho.)